Sounds like the real issue is communication. Everyone has a sort of rollercoaster when it comes to libido. I will go from wanting it every day to going a week or two without even thinking about it. If he doesn't understand what needing romance really means, then he isn't listening to you. Sounds like he is only caring about his needs and not yours. I'm sure it's not that you don't WANT sex but you just need more than getting right into it. Which is normal! It's not out of the ordinary to want to come home to dinner ready and candles or a bath or whatever you think is romantic.

Does he ever do those little things that are romantic to you? And if so do you tell him 'this is what I mean when I tell you I want romance'? I have to tell my bf "when I say I want this...this is what I mean". And when I go out of my way to compliment him on something he has done, it makes him want to do more. Like I made a big breakfast for him the other day and told him it was because I appreciate everything he does for me. So he did all the dishes and I came home to a totally clean house! It's amazing what one little compliment can do. So instead of coming across as nagging like "I hate it when you say this" try to reward the things you DO like. Attention is attention whether it's good or bad. So if you ignore the bad things and reward the good things...it might make him WANT to be more romantic to you.