Hi Lady......i am sorry that you are having to deal with this issue. My story is different but similar in one way. My young ones have been telling my t that i dont feed them and that they are hungry. And in fact i wasnt feeding them well enough, i was only eating one meal at night and that was it. so they told my t that they were hungry in a really sad way.And when they were hungry everything in my life was getting controlled by them, especially their fears.when we were growing up in addition to being abused we did not have a lot of food due to poverty. now im doing better at feeding them earlier and giving them the kind of food they like (mainly grilled cheese sandwiches). So im not as controlled by the young ones fears. okay...sorry i rambled but ive been dealing with this for nearly 6 months. i hope that it might help you if not....please forgive my rambling......kasva