yes its verbal & mental abuse & only gets worse. mine said the same things & oh i was just kidding u dont know when im serious or kidding it will drive u to believe ur crazy i made him leave one time & we stayed apart for 6 months but i let him back. same old crap promised he wouldnt drink &eventually did that too & then the words & crazy crap gets 10 times worse. i made him leave again u r strong & dont deserve it & after being in it 4 so long it may take time to get out im getting a divorce dont beat urself up nothing is ur fault even though they try & make u think everything is ur fault & its true they would never talk to a big guy like that or anyone else outside the home the keep it inside the home sick crap!