Hi,
Welcome to the forum, I agree with you, depression can "cloud" one's judgement just like "mania" can too! Is there any way you can get your partner into therapy for his depression? It may help, maybe even antidepressants in addition to therapy, it has helped for me and millions. It sounds like he is going through a rough time and yeah, you guys can "tough" it out, but why? If you can get outside help, why chance losing or giving up on a good or great relationship? If financially he can't afford help at the present time would you be able to? Just a thought. In my opinion, this may be an area you both might want to look into, it really can help, it is worth a try before calling it quits if nothing else seems to do the trick. I wish you both lots of love and luck, take care of yourselves
"darkeyes"