I was in a relationship like that...it almost seemed the more he distanced physically..the more i wanted from him..one day he turned to me after my asking him for the thousandth time "why do you never want to...be affectionate". I wasn't prepared for his answer.....he told me the truth..the truth was he didn't even like me..he said there were things physically he could never get past about me....i ...just..broke....what a waste of 4 years of my life...people always say it's not your fault..it's theirs...well...that was of no comfort to me...the best thing i ever did in my whole damn life was kick his sorry *** out of my home. I just wish he would have saved me the 4 years of agony...and told me sooner. Before i invested every last emotion into him...before i loved him....before i wanted so much for him to love me back..but he didn't...and Men rarely change..and if your willing to spend the rest of your like in a loveless...empty marriage for whatever reason..i mean..things never will. Thats just how i feel BNL's...you deserve better...much better and i hope one day...you will be enough for your happiness...and find a healthier relationship where you can be treated like a princess...like you deserve.