when people change their relationships change too

the other person can feel bitter and resentful at the one who changed - and is now asking them to change - "just because you think i should be this way i have to be??"

are these things that you would like changed a major issue ? or are they things that you can say - that is their choice and im not going to let it annoy me

Focus on your goals - keep a sheet of them - so you have a visual record - revisit the sheet often and check your progress - make a plan perhaps - in one month i wil have done this this and this

(i even have a whiteboard and a dream board where i put pics to do wiht my goals to remind me lol)

people dont change because you want them to or because you can see they have a problem - unfortunately ...sighs ... they have to realise they have a problem and want to change it

rmember it can be really annoying/disconcerting/scary/anxiety making for the other person - especially if they have any form of depression - to see another making progress and realise they are stil in the mire.

Also there is always the fear that the other person (the one making progress) wil outgrow them and leave them behind ...........

just a few thoughts to throw out there for you....