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Originally Posted by Suratji
Sabby,
"... being in touch with my vulnerability" - so, sure, we feel vulnerable and being open to vulnerability means being open to being hurt. I wonder how one can consciously be open to hurt. And hurt is not necessarily a passive experience. We must also know/learn how to respond appropriately. It just seems like a nice concept, a wonderful concept, but how does it play out in real life?
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In my way of thinking, being vulnerable and open to hurt means knowing and accepting that it is a part of life. It's bound to happen in our lives, there is truly no way we can keep ourselves 100% safe from being hurt.
I think we all have to find our own process in which we deal with being hurt. Sometimes we rein in our vulnerability after being hurt so we can protect ourselves. I guess the hardest part then is to process the hurt and slowly let that vulnerability out again. I can see how figuring out how to do that and actually doing that can be very difficult for many folks. It wasn't all that easy for me either.
There are many thoughts that go into allowing myself to continue to be vulnerable with others. Thoughts such as,
1. I believe there is good in everyone and strive to find it.
2. I look to see what I may have said or done that may have led to the hurt and what could I possibly have done differently to reduce or even stop that hurt from happening?
3. If I hide my vulnerability, what else could I be missing out there? Would I be open enough to enjoy the good things? I don't think so, because I wouldn't be able to take that chance in case of getting hurt.
sabby