Silver Queen,

Sounds like your Dad is worried about your completing your degree. It seems that he may perceive your spending money somehow threatens that goal.

My father was so tight with my brother when he was in college, that I don't know how my brother survived the whole experience, but he did.

How about writing back something like, "i'm sorry you disagree with the amount I have chosen to spend this month. Do you expect me to limit my spending to a certain level each month?"

I don't know what gas and home fuel prices are where you live, but I'm pretty stressed out about these two expenses right now. Maybe your Dad is really more upset about these than your bank statement.

Wishing you and your Dad all the best this Christmas season.

Jane - Oz.