Thank you so much Lee for your post. I am glad that you got relief and glad to know that the letter writing thing has worked for someone. I am thinking about doing it but it is very intimidating. It is true that we let people walk over us when we are ill.
What you said regarding the "freeing" feeling, the putting the junk on the other person is on the nail.

I'm switching therapists right now so am in a sort of a limbo. But I will definately bring this up with my new T.