I told him in order for me to want sex with him I needed to feel some closeness. He told me in order for him to be close he needed to have sex so for awhile I said ok I'll buy that and had sex on his terms. He did not change his behavior at all. he recently brought up that same crap again and I told him I knew that was a big lie and I wasn't buying it now. You are right about the communication thing. I don't have anyone to blame but myself. I knew he was emotionally stunted and had issues. I am going to try and sit down with him and get him to talk.