Yes...I agree...a 'lesson' is of great value.I do wish to state...I was over involved in my boys lives and yet things occurred in their lives that I believe were out of my control.There is also a degree to which a parent must step back and consider natural consequence as a teacher to a young person.Where to allow and disallow natural consequences to take over is an issue.I of course am not referring to this particular case.What I mean to say is,it is highly fathomable that even with parents who feel their childrens friends homes are a descent place to be or have done well in preparing their kids for different scenarios popping up in life,as well as being involved in knowing what kids are 'up to'....there is a degree to which the parent is not in the equation.Especially once they are teens.As far as gadgets...internet access,cell phones....ect...My kids earned or partially earned their things because it was in the forefront of my mind that life wouldn't hand them ANYTHING ever.So between grades,responsibilities, behavior and chores...they knew they earned alot of their extras.I think that changed their perception of life immensely.