That question I can answer!

I would at first be defensive when I read it. Then I would re-read it and look at my actions and try to hear what she was saying to me. I think that's what I would do. However, I have to say that I would be defensive at first. That's assuming that I would ever get a letter like that. I wouldn't because I've not interfered to that degree. That's what I feel your father has done.

Now, I'd like to also add that I wouldn't do what your father has done with my daughters. In fact, I had one in college and couldn't tell you what went where and when, because it was her business. I would have assumed it my business if I was covering all those expenses. However, I wasn't. Your spending doesn't change what your father pays, is my point. Maybe you could bring that up? That was his agreement to you and your spending doesn't change his commitment or make further hardship on him.

Good luck!

KD