Thanks to all of you. A lot of good ideas. I am seeing that I spend zero time thinking about how sex, what I want, being creative. Mostly I just think about how inept my husband is when it comes to that department. I am going to put more thought into ways to spark romance. I have come to terms about how little affection I get from him. It has taken a lot of years. He used to hurt my feelings because I felt he didn't care but that really wasn't true. He is just not a touchy feely kind of person.