Pucca - You are NOT alone! Your spouse sounds almost exactly like my fiancee (She actually suggested I reply here). The only difference is that she is open to getting therapy. I have done the exact same things, where we get into arguments about things that don't matter and escalate. She has thrown things, but hasn't broken much. I did feel like I needed to let you know that there is someone else here that understands what you're going through (I have PTSD and definitely get the depression/anxiety part of it). Sometimes I get so frustrated with her, and it's like I don't know where my problems end and hers begin. I wish I had some advice to offer you, but I was referred to a book called "Loving someone with bipolar disorder." There are some exercises in there that we haven't started on, but just reading that book made me feel 200% better about my situation. Please feel free to send me a message if you EVER need to vent about anything - I don't know if your spouse has issues with you talking to anyone or not, but if you ever want to just sit down and write out everything that's going on, please feel free to. I know it's therapeutic for me, and I'd be more than willing to listen.