However the post above is harsh...the poster makes valid point about enabling. I'll be the last person to force anybody into treatment if they can deal with their life at least on some level... but your wife is not able to. You worry about how she will feel... and from how it sounds you probably tell her she is poor thing and none of it is her fault... and life goes on until the next episode. Why would she work on herself (hard work) when there is not reason... she can go follow her urges and there will be someone to bail her out always...

People who are bipolar are not out of their minds ALL the time and at some time, you need to take responsibility, not rush through life ruining others... Illness is not excuse. One needs to takes responsibility for their actions and their life. End of.