You make some very valid points. I agree it's not good for the parents to get personally involved with each other. That's why I initially involved the principal. The girls mom is the one who came to my door and I reassured her repeatedly that we could forget this and the girls can resume being respectful to each other. But the girl starting saying to my daughter, that I'm a liar and her other siblings kept following her at recess.

Her mother is the one being uncivilized and stooping low to give my oldest the middle finger at the bus stop. Then on Wednesday my 9 yr old got off the afternoon bus, walking to our house(by herself) - the lady drives by and gives her the middle finger - to a 9 yr old!!! It's got to point where she (the adult) is harassing my kids. Am I supposed to be calm and look the other way, turn the other cheek?? This is why I posted my rage in the anti-social forum. At this point I can't deal with unreasonable, aggressive people - I'm letting the police handle this now. The officer told me he'll warn her and if she continues to give obscene gestures to my children he can charge her with harassment.

I never get into arguments and try my best to solve things peacefully. Yes I'm mad, but I think I have the right to protect my kids. If you think I can do better, I'm willing to see what you would do. Yes secretly I would like to punch her in nose but I respect the law - she obviously doesn't. Never the less, I still tell my daughter to behave diplomatically to the girl in class and at recess - even play peacefully in a group. I'm willing to let it all go and the kids can deal with each other nicely - the mom is the one who being unreasonable.

I don't think I'm missing the point at all - I know very well it stinks for the parents to be fighting.