“Perhaps the one most fundamental thing you learn in living through an experience like this is that you can come out the other end of almost anything,” Dr. King said. “You say, ‘Well, it may have crushed me, but I survived.’ ”

byz, thanks for the article. that last sentence sums it all up for me. i believe having adversity/loss/hopelessness about a life event has strengthened me. it forced me to dig myself out of a hole. by "survivng" it enabled me to have more confidence in future upsetting events because i have learned new coping skills and ways to handle things that come my way in life. nothing is constant. for me a lot has to do with how i handle/react/resolve it.