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Originally Posted by Elana05
Hi Lynn P.,
What a tough situation. But it sounds like you are really handling it in the best and most natural way you can. I think notifying the police was wise. I understand your wanting to deescalate the situation too. If these parents can't even act as adults out of the house, imagine the kind of parenting going on at home with their children. Oy.
I'm trying to imagine in my own mind what a more honest response might have looked like way back when. I guess I can see the mom being justified in saying "I sort of wish you would have called me first," but the next thing should have been to... I don't know maybe sit the girls down together with you both and talk about correct and incorrect touching? In essence, a LOT more understanding. It is the utter defensiveness of both wife and husband that sends out loud alarms to me. It sounds (to me) like there is clearly some abuse going on at home  (emotional if not physical). Why else would this little girl even bring it up (to your daughter) to call you a liar? She has to be hearing that somewhere. Ugh. It is that tricky line though as to... what can you do? In a way it is not your problem. Maybe you could just keep your eye on that other little girl and boy from afar whenever you pick up your daughter from school? It does sound like those two kids are really bearing the brunt of some irresponsible parenting - if not worse. Sheesh. To think that guy is a doctor.
Sending supportive thoughts your way.
Elana |
Thanks Elana for the support. When this initially happened I contemplated whether to let the principle handle it or talk the the mother, Since we're just acquaintances I opted to let the school handle it, plus if I talked in person, I wouldn't know how she would react. Plus as several mentioned here and you did to - I worried and wondered where this girl learned that tickling between the legs is appropriate?
I never dreamed this would end up growing from an ant hill to a mountain. When she 1st came to my house, I told her "lets just forget about it and think it was accidental". It never crossed my mind that this girl may have been touched inappropriately but now I'm starting to wonder. I didn't want to make a big deal out of this.