Wow, take a day off...
This thread appears to have gone from one emotional extreme to another! malapp1 - I'm kind of surprised you stuck through it!

I think maybe we can summarize a whole lot of this conversation fairly easy:
1. Mentally ill or not, we are still held accountable for our actions.
2. Because you love somebody doesn't mean there aren't boundaries.
3. If you have to create distance, or let that person learn from their own mistakes, it doesn't mean you don't love them, even if it hurts.
4. No one person has the same experience and there is no way to predict how anyone will behave tomorrow. The only thing that is real is right now.

I think, malapp1, that you would benefit from sticking around and listening to other people's experiences. You won't get the cut and dried answers you wanted, but you may come to understand how to accept that. One of the hardest things about being BP is knowing that I'll never really know, you know?