I don't talk about things like this to the vast majority of people I have to deal with. In fact, I don't talk much, period. This is at once a symptom of my AvPD and a coping strategy. I'm sure a lot of the people who know me think I'm unfriendly, but I find that (at least for a guy) it's better to be considered cold than to be judged weak. And that's exactly how most people interpret shyness in men. To make it worse, shyness in the ordinary sense is still a step above AvPD. I remember being shy back when I was a teenager but that was a long time ago, and I was better then....

Another issue is that, in my experience, most people don't know (or want to know) anything about psychology. Any actual diagnostic term that goes in their ears is automatically translated into some variation of "weird" or "loser". Educated people seem to be no different from the uneducated in this regard, just less honest about it. Sure they'll give the correct, ritual response when asked directly about tolerance for people with disabilities, but when they're not being put on the spot, their attitudes are identical to everyone else.