"The Look". I think we all know that one too well. It is as if they know we have something we want/need to say, and they are waiting for us to give it a voice. Sometimes I get irritated and ask "Why are you looking at me!" You know what her reponse was? "because I can."

Self-soothing is not a weakness. It takes a lot of strength and knowledge about your own needs to be able to do that. Even as infants we turn to self-soothing. It is an innate response to our needs.