Thread: Loneliness
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Old Jan 15, 2011, 11:23 AM
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Originally Posted by Ygrec23 View Post
What does it mean if you're never lonely? If you simply do not experience loneliness throughout your life, regardless of how much time you spend alone? I've heard and read about other people being plagued by this feeling, including those near and dear to me (but NOT my parents or brothers). It seems to have skipped my family.

My wife feels lonely from time to time. Unfortunately, however, it's just not something I can help her on or relate to in any way. I feel colorblind in this respect. I've always all my life been perfectly happy to be alone, and it never palls. I read about how, in prisons, people go insane after being put into solitary confinement. I simply can't relate to that. I think I could do such a thing, as they say, "standing on my head."

What does loneliness really mean? Not the "feeling" of loneliness, but its psychological significance? If people later on in life feel lonely, what does that say about their early childhood? What did they have then that they don't have later? And what's a "normal" person's feeling about loneliness? When is it pathological?

Can't say very much more. I'm stumped about this. Hope you'll all pitch in and have a discussion about loneliness. Take care!
Good topic ygrec!

For me there is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. The first is a state of being - I'm either with other people or I am by myself. The latter is an emotion. I have been in a crowd and felt lonely. I was told my therapist I was tired of feeling lonely in my marriage. For me loneliness comes from a lack of connection with other people. I live alone and love it. I appreciate the solitude and quiet. I do not feel lonely when I am home by myself. Conversely, I work with people who go out of their way to exclude me from socializing at work. There are times I feel lonely at work becase of this. Does that make sense?
Thanks for this!
hayward, Ygrec23