Hi NF,

I wish I knew the right thing to say... but maybe there is no right thing to say. The thing I most want to say is that I think you are handling this in a way where you are being very mindful and aware, which is the very best you can do. It just isn't fair that you had this good connection to this guy but the situation has turned out to be altogether too much. But I am with Leed. It sounds like this man needs help and he just needs to find it for himself. Maybe he will, but it is not your problem to deal with. There are some things that are just too much. And we cannot change people.
You have reached out and asked for help. (And decided to leave) The best you can do.
What a difficult time. Many many safe hugs and good wishes to you. And supportive thoughts for strength and healing.

Your glbt friend,
Elana