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Jan 15, 2011, 06:55 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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(((((NF)))))
I am sorry you are going through this, but I am extremely proud of you for putting your health and well being first. It sounds like you can see that this man is unhealthy for you, as he is not able to be healthy for himself at this point. He definitely has issues that have nothing to do with you, and it's not your job to fix them. I suggest not trying to fix them either because you will put yourself in a role of co-dependency and right now, you need to take care of you.
This relationship he is having with this woman sounds gross and scary. It definitely sounds like she still has her hooks in him and it sounds like he is comfortable with that for one reason or another.
Be gentle with yourself now. Notice that, even though you may feel confused and hurt by this, you were able to identify this unhealthy situation BEFORE it got any further out of control and you initiated self care and are working towards changing your situation for the better. That's AMAZING!!! It's PROGRESS on your part to even be able to do that so it's a very good thing you're doing for yourself.
I'm here for you and I support you in taking care of yourself. Keep posting as you need too. I know you can get through this. It may hurt, but you will be okay as you are learning to be able to trust yourself to keep yourself safe.
Big hugs...if okay!! ((((( )))))
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