You can do it, mr09. You are fighting for your self-respect, your dignity, your peace of mind, and your future--a future worth having in which you may be alone at times, or in a relationship worth your good intentions, effort, and emotions because you're treated wonderfully.

Recognizing that your ex's messages don't have real meaning is a step in the right direction. If you continue to look at them in that light, they'll begin to lose their hold over you. When you get them, remind yourself that you deserve better--much, much better--and you'll start to believe it, because it's true. It is difficult to ignore contact from an ex when you still have feelings for them, but you have to weigh those feelings against your ex's motivations, which don't seem to rise above watching you dance for her amusement.

Hang in there, mr09. And keep coming here as an antidote too--talk it out until you are free, if you feel that helps.