It really is a matter of being yourself and allowing others to decide if who you are meshes with and complements who they are. I'm not friends with everyone and wouldn't expect to be, any more than I think I should be attractive as friend material to all other people. I found your post eloquent enough. If someone is too eloquent I begin to look at him or her as too smooth and maybe a little tricky! You were strong enough to post this and I see you have gotten replies.