can I ask how old you are? You may just grow out of this. Is there anything in your past...you use some pretty strong words there, "degrading", "humiliating", "dangerous"? I was put off by sex for a long time, well into my mid-20s. It wasn't anything religious that was making me feel dirty, I just felt embarrassed even thinking about it even though all of us are sexual beings...and that's OK. Anyway, yeah, I used to think sex was absolutely disgusting. Not to be graphic, but I would have always fantasies since I was a teenager about being in various states of undress and making out, but the actual intercourse part...no way!!!

btw, I am a virgin and on the "older" side [older meaning the majority of people my age are not virgins], but it's because of a lot of other issues. I do have a healthy sex drive, though.