Sorry, I am just getting around to thanking everyone who replied to me.

I appreciate your kind words and suggestions, even if I sometimes have a hard time internalizing them!

Right now I am actually on this site as a distraction to all of this because I am frustrated and angry with him, and really don't like him much.

By the way, that ^ was the first time I ever used one of those smilie things. I think I am understanding how you need to pick your battles, and right now I just don't want to zap the little energy I have by thinking about all of this.

Sometimes you just need to "Check out" of a situation for a while...

ALso, that comment about garbage cracks me up. Every week this would be this battle.. Him: "I will take it out!!".. ME: "No problem, I'll do it."
HIM: "No, really I will."

Then: DAYS of him just pushing the garbage down more and more.. trying to put it off. The smell getting worse and the bag filling up, heavy and disgusting...

SO.. me: just deciding to do it myself, no complaining, since it obviously means more to me. Him: WHY do you do that? You are wasting a garbage bag! It wasn't even full!" AGGGHHHHH!