I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm also sorry that your parents chose such a terrible way to tell you what is going on. I guess fortunately (or unfortunately depending on how you look at it) my parents divorced when I was 6 so I wasn't entirely aware of what was going on. But my brother was 13 and my sister was 17 and looking back I think it affected my brother the most. He started running away, ditching school, getting in trouble etc...

Do you feel like you can talk to either of your parents about it? I understand if you can't. What you have to remember is that it has nothing to do with you. A lot of kids end up feeling like if they were different their parents would have stayed together which is not the truth. Obviously they have issues they can't work through and that should never be taken out on you.

Another question....do you feel like they have been happy together or have there been warning signs? If you have watched them be unhappy together for a long time, it's probably better that they don't keep that negativity around you. If my parents would have stayed together I would have many more issues than what I already have because they just fought all the time. At least then I didn't have to listen to them screaming at each other.

I hope you can find someone you trust to talk to. I'm sure you know others who have divorced parents that understand what you're going through (including many on this site). And any time you need anything, feel free to PM me. We're all here for you to listen and help in any way we can.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind...s/divorce.html

Hope this site can explain some of the things that come along with the pain of your parents divorcing and let you know that you are definitely not alone.