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Originally Posted by CesarioRose
it as expected; everyone else in my life has walked out on me. but my current friends, once they learned i was on meds, "we just cant handle someone on psychotropic meds right now" spells it out clear.
my chronic fear of abandonment grows with every syllable. and the last friends i ever had, which i thought were the best i ever had... throw me to the wolves.
i really see no point in trying to make friends anymore. they're all going to walk out on me.
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It's awful when you find out "friends" aren't really friends. My only close friends are my sister and my daughter. Others are acquaintances that I don't share a whole lot with.
So, as a friend (because there are all kinds, including us here), I'm going to give a couple of suggestions.
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i really see no point in trying to make friends anymore. they're all going to walk out on me.
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Because these friends turned out not to be friends at all, does not mean that everyone is that way. As a matter of fact, most people aren't that way. Rather than focusing on making friends, focus on what you enjoy doing, what makes you happy. Meeting people you have something in common with makes being friends a lot easier.
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my chronic fear of abandonment grows with every syllable. and the last friends i ever had, which i thought were the best i ever had... throw me to the wolves.
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If you have a chronic fear of abandonment, it is going to show in the way you interact with your friends. The toughest thing to remember is that their behavior isn't about you, it's about them. You have a choice over whether you've been thrown to the wolves or been liberated from a negative relationship. You also have a choice whether these non-friends will be the last.
Yes, it totally sucks. But if you dwell on the awful ex-friends and how terribly they treated you, they will win. If you move forward focusing on making real friends, you win.
Lots and lots of hugs, and don't forget: you have friends here.
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