I know I am getting to this post about a month after Bebop last posted. I just read through all that you are experiencing with your husband. Want to say how much I feel for what you are experiencing.

What a wonderful husband your husband has been & what wonderful good memories you have with & of his good times.

I can also completely understand your frustration with the alzheimers. I went through it with my grandmother. If you can imagine a little woman only 4'10" tall, striking my grandfather with her cane & breaking everything in the house with it......that was my grandma. We were lucky enough to get her into the hospital to have her hip replacement replaced & from there, we got her settled into a good convalescent home where they would give her meds when she got violent (any time someone crossed her or did something she didn't like). I remember the times when the food didn't taste good & all she wanted were sweets.....but then I have seen several reports saying that even normal people's taste buds crave sweets as they get older....the one thing that always tastes good....have noticed it even with myself.

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this most difficult experiences with your husband at this point in life when one should be enjoying the finer times of life together. My heart goes out to you & to your husband. It is wonderful that you are working so hard to make sure he is provided for in the best way possible.....you are truly a wonderful wife & both you & your husband have my deepest respect.