I agree that those weren't friends. All of my friends that i've decided to tell, have been very supportive. And I really have very few friends.
With regards to the chronic fear of abandonment - yup, that's me too.
And because of it, I cling to people and friendships, and it just makes things worse. I'm working hard on this in therapy. I need to learn to self-soothe and be able to be independant. Not to take my friends' reactions personally.