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Originally Posted by XxPrObLeMxcHiLdxX
It started with a joke and now it's a whole big mess. He wants to be FWB {Friends With Benefits}. He doesn't want a relationship and I'm completely fine with that. Though I've been hurt by guys before, being rushed into things I'm not okay with or ready for {I was sexually assaulted by an ex}. Like we don't really talk at school, but like out of school we've been spending a ton of time together. I've met his mom, been to his house a couple times and eaten dinner with him and his mom. And I've asked him before like I just thought I was some hook up, but he said that if I was just a look up he wouldn't have introduced me to his mom and if he wanted to date he would have probably already asked me out. I can tell him close to anything. And he told me a lot of very personal things.
We talked about what would happen if this became something and he just simply said "Ques sera sera" {Translates to "What happens happens"}
Were friends but like what am I supposed to do...  |
I want to clarify what you are actually posting. You are survivor of sexual assault and are now going to have or are having a sexual relationship with someone who refuses to actually date you? For what it is worth, I believe those two things are connected (survivors of sexual assault often think they are not worthy of a decent respectful loving mutual relationship out in the open) and I want you to know you
are worthy. I would also like to share with you that you can make it a personal choice
not to be sexual with someone who does not want "something" (your choice of words to mean a loving, dating relationship that might lead to a future together?) with you. I believe sex is important; so important that it should not be entered into lightly and because it sounds like you are so young that you are still in school, I would urge you to discuss this with your mother or perhaps the school nurse if you feel more comfortable.