I posted something similar to sailboat on the "fear of session" thread. I reached a point where I could not describe my feelings without stuttering constantly and sounding like a complete idiot (atleast in my own mind). Since I had called her outside of session to tell her I was having some sort of issue, rather than trying to go into that next session and describe it, I wrote it down and gave it to her at the beginning. While I was embarassed by what I wrote, I felt I had to get it out... and it would probably have taken 5 sessions to get it all out... so writing it down not only made it easier on me in terms of talking about it, but got it all out on the table much quicker. In my case, I don't know if saying all I said was necessarily a good thing, but atleast it got said.

While I can't speak to the touch aspects, if you have needs or things that you believe should be discussed but can't get them to come out of your mouth, write it down and give it to her. All you're doing is bottling your emotions up by keeping them to yourself... and this will help guide her with you...