KathyM. thank you........... is too late i think for aj to ever have respect for me.... although this isn't an excuse for his behavior, he started venting at me after he started ther apy when he was in the 6th grade. he kicked a hole in his bedroom door and it was all jagged and i was worried someone would get hurt, so i took the door down and the therapists kept telling me to get another door up because AJ needed his "PRIVACY". and when i told them he was getting out of control venting and screaming at me the ther apist said that it was normal and that he was venting at me because he knows i won't leave him .... so 6th, 7th, 8th and 9th grade he got pretty out of hand... thinking now what was the purpose for his therapy when the Ts were like helping with "nothing" and AJ got so out of hand when in the l1th grade i sent him to live with his dad///// seems the ther apists gave him a license to vent... is awfu wht aj said to me..........am too tired right now to think so off to bed i go