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Originally Posted by sugahorse
Keep trying to write the letter. Even if you give it to her at the end of the session, and have her read it once you are gone - it's a step forward
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Ok, I'll keep trying! Thank you
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Originally Posted by Omers
My T just told me but... we knew each other from a different context before therapy and all the T's around here talk... I had a very bad, unearned reputation.
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Wow, that would be my nightmare! Have Ts talk behind my back. But I do like that you don't generalize.
Of course each person is different but all Ts had to learn some reactions and do's/don't's so I suppose sometimes you can generalize.
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Originally Posted by sunrise
Do you think worrying about how she will react is holding you back from expressing your strongest emotions with her in therapy?
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Yes and no. There are a lot of other issues that keep me from showing real and raw emotions but worrying about her reaction definitely is one of them.
Although I did not start talking about my needs or how I want her to react, it was
her who asked me what I want of her. She knows how I'm struggling with this so she was only trying to help.
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Originally Posted by sunrise
That would make me feel really bad if I asked for touch and my T said no.
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It would make me feel really bad, too.
I'm used to people ignoring my emotions and not comforting me or hugging me but just rolling their eyes at me.
Now if she told me beforehand that she doesn't hug in general than it would help as I would know, while crying, that she isn't rejecting my tears or minimalises my emotions but it's just not her thing.
Oh, why does this have to be so complicated, this therapy stuff
Thanks for your reply, I appreciate it!
