Yes I understand where your coming from...hopefully you can tell your T how you are feeling alone in the journey with her...perhaps she can help you with that some more or perhaps its out she doesnt have the ablity? I think though some of our feelings that arise are transference, our bringing our abandoments from the past into the therapy relationship but if you talk about it and still there is no movement eventually in this area then perhaps it is the lack of skill on the therapist behalf..