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For some though, a chemical imbalance can be corrected with medication can't it? Least that's what I read. But the personality is inherent to the thought processes of the individual. The body works the same for us all, but the mind contains the experiences of a lifetime and drives the person in whatever direction their life script has made for them. Mine for example, my life script was made the day my mother put me on the floor to start crawling around. That was the start of my non-care (is that a viable phrase?) meaning, not ever again did she coddle and coo to me, if in fact she ever did before. I have memories of feeling let down, disappointment, abject terror of her when she chased me from the house with the strap, All these things contributed to the script to MAKE me overly sensitive to anger and people disregarding me. To actively look to other people to make ME feel good. These things cannot be fixed by drugs. And they can't be fixed by someone else. Because this desire for someone else to fix you, falls right in line with the life script rules. Fix me, because I'm too helpless, too needy, too dependant, too avoident, too stupid, etc., you get the point.
By making others dance to your tune or Game, you fulfill the life script that was made when you were 5 years old. And all the childish emotions and feelings are right there out in front for others to deal with. If you don't face this head on, realize where these feelings come from, you play out your life script to the bitter end. The thoughts of fear, rejection, jeolousy, loss, etc., are directly from that age in your life, 5 yrs old. Look at and study the children around you who are this age. Do you see yourself in them?
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BPD is a messy disorder. Not only are the features confusing (for example, “instability” is the only stable feature!) but the prognosis and origin are grossly complicated. Most experts agree that BPD does not exist on a solely genetic/biological basis or on environment alone. Depending on which psychological perspective you have (e.g. psychodynamic, cognitive, behavioral, biochemical) the theories vary.
Most modern psychologists/Pdoc’s (and Myself!) see BPD as a mix of both chemical/genetic factors and environmental factors (much like as your experience of childhood neglect). Most of the time, chemical/genetic factors make a person more vulnerable to developing some form of psychopathology.
-Note: There is no BPD gene of course, but chemical/genetic to vulnerabilities such as mood disorders can serve as a catalyst for the later development of BPD. Interestingly, while it has not been proven that BPD is passed through families, there is much evidence to suggest that if you have BPD, someone in your family is likely to have a mood disorder even if they never developed a personality disorder.
Yes, of course, I see myself in your story. “Having” BPD does not exist, really. Your super intense way of living and feeling are the way you are and sometimes you can learn to embrace it. Hell, you know most of the famous visionaries, painters, philosophers, and writers suffered from the pains and the fears you and I feel.
There’s not a pill for happiness (no jokes!!
--- see Drug Questions: “Depakote and BPD”) Medications do help with the stuff that comes along with BPD though and when you can get the chemical crap out of the way you can start to heal the person inside of all the symptoms.
Thanks for your comment! Very Good point!
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