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Hi ~ I faced the same thing when my son was that age. My son was/is an alcoholic. We had to use tough love and set down some boundaries. We went to Al-Anon and found out what we needed to do.
First, we set down the house rules. He was to be home at a certain hour, let's say 12 midnight. He was to come home SOBER. He was NOT to use alcohol in our home. He was to get a job and KEEP it. If any of the house rules were broken, he was to leave the home. We had to be stern and together on this - his father and I.
Well, he broke the house rules. He got drunk, he lost his job, and he didn't come home on time. So he was asked to leave the home. He did. It broke our hearts because we didn't know where he would go. But he's been on his own ever since.
We cannot enable him. That's the worst thing for him. He has GOT to learn to stand on his own two feet. We did have him in rehab once but it didn't take.
Is he sober now? No. I keep praying that he will hit his bottom -- but he hasn't yet. The prayers continue but I'm afraid that some day I may have to bury my son.
I hope you have better luck than we have had. God bless you. Hugs, Lee
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