Have you worked with other T's before? How long have you been working with this T for a long time? Would you consider trying another T to see if it is a better fit?

(I have to say that it really would bother me if my boss were my T's spouse. If you want to vent about a work issue, how can you do that freely? How could you speak freely about difficulties or whatever regarding your work? Confidentiality is a big issue of course, but for me it would be way more than that.)

Therapy is very difficult, but this particular T seems to be causing you lots of unnecessary distress.

-Far