Let me just add, I can't talk to him because conversations where I talk about him go like this:

Me: I suspect you broke my confidentiality.
T: Have you felt mistrustful of people in the past?

or, imagining bringing up something way, way too uncomfortable, the looks

Me: There have been a few times I think you were staring at my breasts. One of the times was when I was pretty upset and talking about a current crisis. I feel disrespected.
T: Have there been other times in your life you have felt disrespected?

Then I get angry and push for answers. Then he gets angry. Sigh.