Ooooh I would get angry too. My T can be an ice queen but even she is supportive. She is seriously OCD about confidentiality but if I had said what you said I would expect to hear "what happened that makes you believe I broke our confidentiality agreement?" and from there we would 1. clarify what happened and what the context was 2. discuss my feelings about it and 3. discuss how things needed to be different in the future so that we could re-build trust.
Other things I hear from T:
"I know that must be so hard for you"
"I know that is difficult for you to look at"
"how does that make you feel" (She uses a very specific tone of voice when she says this that keeps me from strangling her)
"Hang in there, call if you need" (I can call her but she does not typically return phone calls unless you are headed to the ER or are inpatient)
"I know this was a hard session for you. What are you going to be doing for self care?"
Dunno... just trying to give you an idea. A lot of people on here have really warm fuzzy T's so it might be hard to compare just because of the personality/theory differences. My guess is your T is psychoanalytic... But that would only explain the "cold" not the rude.