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Originally Posted by salukigirl
Totally understand. I know that my dad lost his virginity at 13 (by eavesdropping of course) and my mom was not the only woman he had ever been with. But I honestly think that my mom has only ever had sex with my dad and step-dad. Which seems weird to me because I was at that number by 16 (I would put lol but I realize it's really not that funny).
My situation was kind of opposite. Our sex ed was all about body parts and the literal action of sex and giving birth and STDs etc.... but I have never once heard my parents talk about it.
Funny story....when I was 14 my dad told me that if I ever thought I was going to have sex to tell him so he would buy me birth control (my sister had my niece at 18 and he wanted to avoid that again). So at 15 I told him I wanted birth control and then he refused! I couldn't go talk to my mom about it so instead, I went by myself. Everything was covered on insurance so I knew my mom wouldn't get a bill. So I went to OBGYN by myself at 15 and got birth control. What I didn't realize is that insurance would send her a statement saying they paid for it......Oh man.....she came running into my room screaming (all 4 names thats how you know you're in trouble) "are you having SEX???!!!"
I thought I was clever. Turns out nope. I'm not. So my mom knew. But even then we never talked about it! She doesn't even know that I get regularly tested for STDs and HIV just to be safe. So she doesn't ask and I don't tell.
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13? Wow. Also, neither of my parents ever said anything about what they would do if either me or my sister were having sex as teenagers. I guess it was just expected we would never "go there", haha...like an unspoken understanding. I think that while she's very Catholic, my mom is OK with birth control and condoms (what I've gathered from hearing her talk here and there) because it prevents abortions, which is a much more grave thing to her. She never really said too much about rhythm to us, and from what I understand it really doesn't work well unless you adhere to it perfectly...and how many couples can really control themselves anyway if they both want it, especially if they are newlyweds? LOL
Haha, yep that insurance statement comes listing every single service..."Statement of Benefits".
Anyway, ontar—sorry to hijack your thread, but you really should consider seeing a counselor or therapist. If you ever want to be in a truly loving relationship, at some point your partner will want to have sex with you, even if you don't want to. I am working these things out right now in my own therapy. And please know I personally don't think you sound strange, because I was in your spot a few years ago.