Survivor, I think we're engaged to the same guy!

Thanks for sharing your story. Especially the part about wanting to tell your family that the "normal" you is "still inside but can't get out". That's what has kept me in my relationship. I know that he doesn't want to be this way, but he's very STUCK and is really struggling. You put it in a way that was very clear and easy to understand - thanks - that reinforces my resolve - thank you.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this with him. The crying IS the worst, I agree. Helpless is exactly how I feel. It's awful to see somebody who is so great feel so crappy about himself.

I guess the reason I was worried about posting is because I know how sensitive my boyfriend is -- he already feels majorly guilty about the fact that he hasn't worked, doesn't accomplish much, and that I've been picking up the slack. One of the things I find myself doing when he is having a Down Day is that I walk on eggshells to avoid setting him off in a crying or anger rage. He is much more sensitive and irritable when he feels bad, even though he is normally very laid back. Sometimes here, on this forum, there are a few people who give me the same "feeling" -- that I have to walk on eggshells unless I want to deal with getting publicly flamed when they misunderstand something because they are feeling hypersensitive and are irritable. It drains me of emotional energy.

Ok, I've rambled enough. Thanks again Survivor and I wish you the best -- please let me know if you'd like to talk more.

LMo

We are ALL going to be a-ok!