thank you Echoes.... Very wise post..... I do pray it is not too late..

I am not sure he is "wishing" for an independent life. I think he is spoiled and is making excuses for not finding that independence. He isn't trying... The house wasn't meant for him to be dependent. It was meant to be a foundation for his future. He hasn't made any effort to be self sufficient.

I worry tho.....and the head is pounding....guess with AJ's dad getting involved, maybe something good will come out of all of this. Meaning that AJ needs to move on... We have done all that we can do.........Is AJ's turn to take the driver's seat...
huggs