If I were you I'd discuss it with him very seriously, and just stick with it, not let him off the hook. That's his part. And then there is this, your part: "I guess I'm taking his looks as further proof that to him, I equal something equivalent to a servant. Something that can be oogled if he wishes". Ahem. Can a "servant" be ogled at will? and how come you are feeling like one? I would use this opportunity to try to work through what's behind these feelings.