(((((Jexa))))) That does feel - yucky. I know! One of my closest friends, who is my mentor, was my friend for 2 yrs without my knowing anything about his past. I thought he was just a retired T. I stumbled across a legal case one day while googling his name and some of his research work for some reason.

Well, I won't go into those details - but will say it involved my mentor loosing his license. I felt SHOCK - OUTRAGE - insulted, let-down, betrayed. I felt all those emotions. I didn't want to talk with him or anything else. Reading through that huge hearing document with those details made me physically sick. I never wanted to talk with him again. It hurt. ((So I do understand a bit about the emotion you may have felt reading what you read)).

But I asked him about it. And I listened to his side of the story. Come to find out, most of HIS side of the story had been totally left out of the case! It was not a matter of him saying stuff to protect his name to me, it was just that all the facts were not there. I knew him as a human and was spot-on when I felt while reading that case that there was NO WAY he could have done what they said he did. Sure enough, there were political issues at work in the background. People who wanted him removed from the position he was in and when he wouldn't back down, they decided to destroy his reputation. It is a dirty game some people play, but that happens in life sometimes.

Bottom line is that I had to choose if I believed what strangers said over what my friend and mentor told me. I felt my heart say to trust him, and I did so. A few years later one of the "witnesses" against him came forward and admitted that she had been paid to lie about him! Of course he was too old to practice by that time. But I heard about that and knew I did the right thing by trusting my heart.

I am not saying this to hijack the thread and that is all I will say on that subject. But I wanted to share it with you so you can see that there really are many sides that we don't see or read about in those documents.

If I were in your shoes, I might bring this up with T in a way that allows her to talk without any disclosure. "T, hypathetically speaking - suppose a client read about his or her T doing X,Y,Z ...." The use of "I have a friend who .... " can be a rescource that allows people to talk indirectly about things they can't talk about directly for legal reasons. Just an idea.

Sending you tons of hugs!!