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Originally Posted by sunrise
When I told my mom the story, I was not hoping for acknowledgement. I had no goal. I was just saying, hey, remember when... Just kind of pleasantly reminiscing. I would never have had the courage to directly say anything. She's in the last stage of life and I wouldn't want to stir the mud. I feel really lucky this whole conversation even happened. My T says we know inside what we need to heal, so maybe this "accident" was my unconscious at work.
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I love this, sunny
I do think we know what we need to heal, and that something inside must have been guiding you in the right direction.
To know that your parents remember what your childhood was like, and maybe even GET it, and regret mistakes made...it sounds very healing to me. I think that on some unconscious level, I have a hope that someday, someone will apologize for the things that were done to me as a child....or at least acknowledge them. Your moms sad face, showing her clear regret, is like an acknowledgment that you deserved better, and, I would guess, that given the chance to do it over again, she'd do it differently. Maybe that's what's so touching to me about this...your PARENTS' realization that little Sunny deserved better....because you did. And no matter how much WE know that after our years of therapy, to have it validated from a parent must feel really big.
Thank you for sharing your story with us, Sunny. Will you call T to see if you can get in sooner??
