For a long time I have been looking for that magical formula. How to be a better(kinder) person. But there is no such formula. Trying to make big changes to the way you live your life will not agree with who you are and what you are used to.
I have found that starting with the small things is far more effective. Especially when that leads to positive feedback. Because when that happens there is this synergy of positivity allowing you to keep getting better at it.
To say it in modern terminology, let your love go viral.