I think you need to solve this. Its almost inhuman of him to make this decision for you both, especially after all this time.
Of course, making that sacrifice on your part can theoretically be done if there are overriding psychological reasons that your bf can not do it(as with my gf) but in that case its a force majeure and not so much a choice.

I always find it a little strange how people interpret the Bible when they say that sex before marriage is wrong. After all, what IS marriage? Does God really need a human priest or government official to speak for Him and make it official?
Or is marriage the solid and enduring bond between two people who have chosen each other? And don't you think that if there is such love, God will be able to tell?